Feeling Stuck?

Helping You Find Your Way…

There is a lingering thought constantly following you. It whispers, “There is something wrong with me.”

For as long as you can remember, you have struggled with relationships. You often get them started and can start spending time with someone. But something always happens, and then the person is gone before a real foundation is set. 

Maybe a couple of weeks in, you realize you are being taken advantage of. But sometimes you are just so glad to have a friendship you let the unhealthy cycle continue. Or you see it and still leave it be because you are hopeful it isn’t really what’s happening. The denial is real. 

You often think someone is rejecting or leaving you when that isn’t really what’s going on. At least that’s what you’ve been told. At the same time, when a friend doesn’t invite you to hang out (and spends time with someone else), it’s hard not to take that as a rejection. 

The thoughts don’t go away. Often you can convince yourself that the rejection is in your head or your reaction is too big. But sometimes you act on the thoughts, and then your friendship is over. It’s painful and frustrating.

All of this makes you feel like something is deeply wrong with you.

At points in your life or even now, you have looked like you have it all together. Some might even call you an overachiever, but that’s certainly not how it feels. It feels like if you don’t do the best you can or better than that, you won’t be good enough to keep around. 

You will feel invisible if you aren’t recognized for your overachieving.

This isn’t sustainable. It’s exhausting and impossible to keep up with it all.

Do you even want to? You aren’t sure where your life is going and what you want out of it. What would give you purpose? What do you really want to do with your life moving forward? It seems like you are doing everything you should, but it still isn’t enough. 

You question whether this is the life you want or if you want something that feels more like you. But what would that be?

The constant rejection and abandonment from people who are supposed to be friends have created a situation where you don’t know what you really want or who you really are. Life just feels so painful, but it doesn’t seem like it’s that way for others. 

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You would like to get to a place where life just feels easier. 

You want your life to feel like it often looks to other people. You want to feel like you really do have it all together and like you are enough. Like you know where your life is going and its purpose. You want to have a path ahead of you. Maybe one that isn’t the path you are expected to follow. You know others don’t spend all their time feeling like they aren’t good enough. You are pretty sure they are able to feel proud of themselves instead of seeing all the errors. It’s time for a change. 

We will work together to get unstuck and help you find your path forward. We will figure out if the most authentic path forward for your life is the one everyone expects of you or if it is something different.

As your therapist, one of the most impactful things I do with my clients who are feeling lost or stuck is that we look back at your past. We work on making connections between the things that are keeping you stuck now and the lessons you learned growing up. Some of these lessons are good ones, and some of them are unhelpful now as an adult. If those lessons are no longer serving you, we will figure out how to make changes. But we have to look back at them to figure out the impact that they are having on you.

Something else that I have found helpful in situations like this is called EMDR, or Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. If this is something that you are interested in can be really helpful in helping people to find their way when they are feeling stuck. This type of therapy heals distressing events (big or small) so they are no longer impacting your day-to-day life. 

I have worked with people feeling lost or stuck in their lives often. You are not alone in this. Together, we will also spend time finding your strengths and helping you to get to know who you are. Finding the authentic you and not the you everyone else wants you to be. We will help you to develop a genuine relationship with yourself that doesn’t involve self-criticism and negative self-talk. 

In therapy, we will look at the relationships in your past and present and help you identify where your rejection sensitivity is impacting them. Then we can identify the healthy and unhealthy relationships in your life.

Often my clients leave therapy with me feeling like they know who they are. They report that they feel like they have a path forward to a life that feels authentic to them. They often have put down the weight of overachieving but still feel like they are recognized for their strengths.

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