Finding Your People: Embracing Your Intensity and Letting Your True Self Shine
Have you ever felt like you were just too much for other people? Like your passion, your big dreams, or the way you feel everything so deeply made others uncomfortable? Maybe someone told you to "calm down," "be easier to be around," or "stop overthinking things." Sound familiar? 😤
Let me tell you something loud and clear: There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. The real problem? You’ve probably been surrounded by people who aren’t capable of holding space for your brilliance and fire. And that can feel lonely. It can feel isolating to be the one who wants to dive into conversations while others skim the surface.
But here’s what you need to know: you are not alone. You may feel rare—and honestly, you are—but you’re not a mistake or an outlier who needs to “fix” their personality. In fact, you’re part of a league of some of the most creative, brave, and inspiring individuals out there.
Why Your Intensity Feels Isolating—But You’re Worth It
Yes, it’s challenging to be someone who feels everything in technicolor while the world runs on grayscale. It’s tough to be the person who’s bursting with energy, ideas, and emotions in a world that often rewards predictability and conformity.
But your intensity? It’s not a burden—it’s a beacon. It’s what makes you capable of doing things others can’t even dream of.
Did you know that nearly 50% of astronauts are neurodivergent? (Source: Dr. Temple Grandin’s research on successful neurodivergent individuals.) And it’s not just astronauts—some of the world’s most intuitive, creative leaders are wired just like you. This isn’t about being a superstar or an icon—it’s about being you. The world needs fiery, passionate friends, creators, and quiet leaders who see things differently.
Finding the Right People Who Get You
Not everyone will understand your fire. And that’s okay. You don’t need a crowd—you need a core. A small group of people who see your brilliance and value you for exactly who you are.
Here’s who those people are:
The Deep Divers – The ones who aren’t afraid of meaningful conversations and who light up when you ask the big questions.
The Steady Souls – Calm, grounding friends who may not be fiery themselves, but who love your passion and know how to hold space for it.
The "Misfits" Who Know What It’s Like to Be Different – People who’ve felt like outsiders understand what it means to want to belong without changing themselves.
Why You’re Needed—Now More Than Ever
Your passion and energy aren’t just for you—they’re for the world. Whether you’re leading a cause, starting a creative project, or simply showing up as an incredible friend, your way of being brings something rare and beautiful. When others hesitate, you have the courage to move. When people feel small, your light reminds them of what’s possible.
As author Brené Brown says: “Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and embrace who you are.” Your presence alone can give others permission to show up as their authentic selves.
You Don’t Have to Change—You’re Already Enough
You don’t need to dim your energy, “soften” your personality, or fit into a mold to belong. Your people are out there. And they’ll love you not because you’ve shaped yourself to be palatable—but because you’ve stayed true to your core.
Quotes to Keep Your Fire Burning:
“The ones who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who do.” – Steve Jobs
“You’re not too much—you’re more than enough.”
“Shine so brightly that those who can’t handle the heat step aside.”
What to Do When You Feel Alone
If you’re in a season of feeling misunderstood or isolated, remember: there’s nothing wrong with you. This loneliness isn’t permanent—it’s a signal that you’re still searching for the connections you deserve.
How I Can Help You Embrace Your Fire
If you’re tired of feeling stuck in cycles of masking, people-pleasing, or shrinking to fit in, I’m here to help you reconnect with your unstoppable, bold self. My coaching isn’t about “fixing” you—it’s about amplifying what’s already incredible about you.
Here’s how we’ll work together:
Rediscover your authentic self: We’ll clear away the noise of who you’ve been told to be.
Build connections that light you up: Together, we’ll find ways for you to cultivate deep, meaningful relationships with people who see your full worth.
Turn your energy into impact: Learn how to use your passion and creativity to build a life of purpose and joy.
You’re not here to play small or dim your light. You’re here to lead in ways others can’t. You’re here to inspire and uplift. Let’s tap into your brilliance and build the life you’ve always known you were capable of.
You don’t need a massive audience to belong—you just need the right people who see and celebrate your glow. And they’re out there, waiting for someone just like you.
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